… especially trouble. But I also like making things like these booties that look like sneakers. I made up the pattern. Creating stuff to make for kids is a hoot. I remember when I made b!X a “Bionic Man” shirt by cutting pieces of iron-on fabric into the shapes of the bionic arm components and ironing them onto the sleeve of a sweatshirt. I’m going to have such fun with this grandson of mine!! That’s in between still trying to change the world, of course.
Daily Archives: December 2, 2002
Some of my best posts on feminism vs girlism…….
…… are in the Comments on other weblogs. Here
Doc Searls is lucky.
Over here, Doc Searls includes the following in response to all of the hullabaloo about girlism:
One of the things that attracted me to my wife was that feminism (and political correctness in general) bored her as much as it bored me. She once dismissed the whole topic by saying “I’m not interested in equality with men. Why deal down?”
Feminism (and now girlism too… or any ism, I suppose) still bores me. I think that’s because it’s still about power, and there are other subjects that interest me more.
Like how much I miss sweet and romantic kind of beauty that fell out of favor with feminism (and the Vietnam war, and the Sixties in general) and never came back. I listened to a lot of old music while I unpacked boxes over the weekend… Patti Page (Old Cape Cod), Dean Martin (That’s Amore), Doris Day (Que Sera Sera), Bobby Darin (Dream Lover) and it blew my mind how completely gone that stuff is.
Doc, you and your wife are two of the lucky ones who somehow avoided being battered around by the gender politics stuff. We all wish we were in relationships that felt as good as yours seems to. While love doesn’t solve all relationship problems, it can go a long way. I read once that, rather than total compatability, what makes a relationship work is “compatible neuroses.” I would add to that a shared sense of humor and mutually genuine affection.
But, Doc, if you were able to walk a mile in some of our shoes, you would understand why we are so upset. Since you can’t, however, check out this post by Pascale Soleil and see what happens when sexism runs rampant. You mentioned that you and your wife are not concerned with feminism and political correctness; let me remind you that the guys in India aren’t either.
(And, Doc, the kind of romanticism you posted about never falls out of favor, as long as it’s not triggered by that dumb girlism stuff.)
NO! NO! NO! Halley.
NO! NO! Halley is SOOOooooo wrong about feminism being only about lesbian sexiness. Believe me, I was a feminist back in the 70s. I was also a “disco queen” of sorts — high heels, short skirts, sexy and all. Feminism is about owning your power as a female human and all that that implies — including owning one’s own heterosexual sexuality. Girlism winds up undoing all the good that we feminists fought so hard for on the mistaken idea that feminism discounts being sexy. No way! I’m living proof!! Ditch the girlism, girls, and find some role models that show how it can be done without resorting to all that stupid girly stuff.
Not that I’m such a great role model (although at 62, I’ve certainly had some experiences that 40-something women haven’t had), but if you take a look at Frank Paynter’s interview with me, you’ll get what I mean.
Take it from me, girlism is going to come back and bite you in in ass, ladies.