On the spur of the moment, I rented two movies to watch last night, Solaris, which I mentioned in my previous post, and The Secretary. Each was recommended to me by a different friend. I saw both available at my local Hannaford, where I can rent movies for a buck each, so I got both of them, not realizing how relevant each was to current weblog conversations about relationships and compatible neuroses.
There was a secondary character in each movie who, coincidentally, was played by the same actor, Jeremy Davies. And the two characters he played were practically interchangeable. It was kind of spooky to have, at the same time, rented two supposedly totally unrelated movies about which I knew practically nothing and see the same actor in both looking and acting exactly the same.
Synchronicities like that make me pay close attention, and, darn it, if both movies didn’t serve as echo chambers for the conversations that prompted my last post.
“And Death Shall Have No Dominion” is the Dylan Thomas poem that reverberates through the love/attachment theme of Solaris. Love conquers all, even death. It’s fantasy, of course, on all kinds of levels, including the kind of romantic fantasy that keeps us dreaming of a Prince Charming with George Clooney’s butt.
Naked butts, the love/attachment theme, fantasy, and of course Jeremy Davies and his nervous hands, are all fundamental to The Secretary as well. Now how coincidental is that? Now I’m really paying attention.
The leitmotif for The Secretary is by Leonard Cohen, not Dylan Thomas, but, I’ll be damned, the message is the same.
Dylan Thomas:
Though they go mad they shall be sane,
Though they sink through the sea they shall rise again;
Though lovers be lost love shall not;
Leonary Cohen:
If you want a lover
I’ll do anything you ask me to
And if you want another kind of love
I’ll wear a mask for you
If you want a partner
Take my hand
Or if you want to strike me down in anger
Here I stand
I’m your man
If you want a boxer
I will step into the ring for you
And if you want a doctor
I’ll examine every inch of you
If you want a driver
Climb inside
Or if you want to take me for a ride
You know you can
I’m your man
Ah, the moon’s too bright
The chain’s too tight
The beast won’t go to sleep
I’ve been running through these promises to you
That I made and I could not keep
Ah but a man never got a woman back
Not by begging on his knees
Or I’d crawl to you baby
And I’d fall at your feet
And I’d howl at your beauty
Like a dog in heat
And I’d claw at your heart
And I’d tear at your sheet
I’d say please, please
I’m your man
And if you’ve got to sleep
A moment on the road
I will steer for you
And if you want to work the street alone
I’ll disappear for you
If you want a father for your child
Or only want to walk with me a while
Across the sand
I’m your man
If you want a lover
I’ll do anything you ask me to
And if you want another kind of love
I’ll wear a mask for you.
James Spader is no George Clooney, but he does have that screwed-up bad boy dark-erotic (in contrast to light-romantic) magnetism.
Romantic fantasy is compelling, but so can be its neurotic-erotic shadow.
Psychosis, pathology — attachment, obsession — dominion, domination. It’s all about love.
Everything is always all about love.
And pain.
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Reflections in a Crone’s Eye.
NOTE: I wrote this a couple of weeks ago on my new laptop before I had an external floppy drive that would enable me to transfer the document to my regular computer so that I could post it on my blog. Of course I
Keep it up, Bubala.
When Locke lets go of his flaming rages, he’s not just good, he’s superb. Maybe he gets inspired by challenges too. Whatever the case, this is worth the struggle.
And in the spirit of archetypes, his allusion to the old Howdy Doody show got me thinking about Mr. Bluster — sort of an archetype for RB, no? I wonder if he made that conscious connection or is it just my ever connecting brain.
Meanwhile, after a day of manic blogging, I’ve got to spend the rest of the week taking care of the rest of what passes for my life these days: my chiropractor appointment; my mother’s Aredia infusion (which takes half a day); a visit with my former colleague from Arizona (the free-lance job from whom enabled me to buy a laptop, which I still haven’t connected) who’s in the area; and getting ready for a visit from my cousins who are coming up this weekend. And my greying roots are way overdue for a touch-up. Such is life in the slow lane.
So, if I’m dark here for a few days, don’t panic. The most I hope to get done on this blog is update my blogroll, which hasn’t been touched much since I moved to this site from my old one.
Keep it up, Bubala.
Fantasy Life
I live a very small life these days. It wasn
A Maybe-Meme on Empathy
I finally looked up what “meme”
One reason why I love Trackbacks.
When I tracked down a trackback to one of my posts, I found this great CounterSpam Project that I want to promote. I’m a big believer that one person can make a difference, and this is a person doing something really worth trying to do.
Exerpted from the explanation of the Project:
……We know the spammers cull email addresses from any source they can. The real prize for them is a live email address. Scripting can automate the sending process, and a text generator can easily spit our address after address, but to get an email address that’s live is the real goal. And one of the easiest ways to accomplish that is to “crawl” a website for any email addresses listed. Sadly, even blogs are being crawled in this way now, with email addresses culled from the comments fields.
I’m undertaking a study…an experiment…a year long project. First, I’ve added an email address to the domain that will never be used. CounterSPAM@ipadventures.com is pretty clearly not an address that a human would knowingly send spam to, particularly since I’m publicly describing the project. It will appear in this entry, and in an occasional conversation on the subject. There will also be a single page describing my CounterSPAM project on my primary IP Adventures domain site. It will never be used to send an email. In short, the only way to find the address will be to crawl this modest web site or proliferation from there. It’s a receive only address that will be scrutinized closely……..
……I’m going to document a year of spam. Every message will be researched and responded to. Prosecuted where possible. Persecuted where legal and appropriate. Publicly derided frequently. Depending on how flagrant the offenders are, there may be a web of shame online identifying them with name, address and telephone number (it is after all, often public information)……
CounterSPAM@ipadventures.com. Proliferate it.
CounterSPAM@ipadventures.com
You go, Ken.
Nip Tuck
The FX network has been coming up with some great shows lately. I managed to catch most of the episodes of The Shield when it went into reruns. Now I’m hooked on Nip Tuck.
Of course, I’ve had a crush on Julian McMahon ever since he played that devastatingly hunky demon on Charmed. (Yes, I watched that too. Love anything witchy and/or with females who can give as hard as they get. My fascination with such things actually goes back to the 1942 movie, “I Married a Witch” with Veronica Lake and then the 1951 “Half Angel” starring Loretta Young. So you see, the seeds of my feminism and cronehood go way, way back.)
Nip Tuck is far from charming. It’s messy, unpredictable, unnerving, subtle, outrageous, disappointing, redeeming, revealing, and rewarding. Kinda like life. And blogging, sometimes.
I love the complexities of the show’s characters, the infinite shades of their gray thinking. It’s those moral and emotional struggles in all of us magnified a hundredfold — not enough to turn us away, but enough to hit home hard enough to pop our eyes open.
Kinda like our personal blogs should be, doncha’ think?
bad boys, bad boy
In my younger years I just loved those bad boys. You know, the ones who are so screwed up that they make you think of bloody wounds when you look at the lush lines of Renoir
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I find reading blogs about blogging particulaly uninteresting. But the comments on something Tom Shugart posted (and he doesn’t often write about blogging anyway) gave me significant and thoughtful pause — mostly Dave Rogers’ comment that “What draws me to blogs is not the topic of the blog, but the revelation of the blogger.”
And maybe having a conference of webloggers to talk about blogging might be as boring as blogging about blogging. I’ve registered for the BloggerCon at Harvard in October, but I’m having second thoughts — for the afore mentioned reason as well as for the exorbitant registration cost. (They offer a student rate, but not a Senior Citizen rate.) I want to go so that I can come back and do a post entitled “The oldest living continuously posting female blogger tells all” and give an outsider’s perspective on all of those “A” list bloggers who will probably be there. I think it would be a hoot. A very pricey hoot, however, and one I’m not sure I can afford.
I am sure that I don’t want to blog so much about politics, although it’s hard for me NOT to write about politics, since today’s devious politics really irk me. But what I want to remember to do is write about me in relation to those politics rather than just recap something I read somewhere else.
Having said that, I’m now going to post something political — although I didn’t write it, myrln did. But they’re my sentiments as well…
Okay, we will again survive. I am struck by the uncommon goodness evoked by the outage: technology goes out, humanity comes in. Sounds like a correlation to me. In NYC people sleep on the sidewalks because they can’t stay in their hotels, and nobody bothers or assaults or robs them. Civilians stand in intersections and direct traffic to maintain a semblance of order and sanity. Subway-trapped riders evacuate the tunnels without panic, their way often lit by cigarette lighters held up as if at a rock concert (and despite Bloomberg’s smoking ban). People help the elderly and kids. A liver transplant interrupted by the outage is finished in some dim light and weak power. Somebody gives free sneakers to people without good walking shoes having to walk over the Brooklyn Bridge. Somebody else gives free ice cream (unlike the gouging vendors who took advantage).
Obviously, there is untapped, unasked-for, and unseen good in people. Our culture suppresses it in favor of greed and egocentrism. It does nothing to evoke that hidden wonder because if it did, here’s what we would learn: we don’t need overweening government or a political power structure, we don’t need oppressive big business, we don’t need mind-numbing consumerism. Why not? Because we would have community. People caring about each other for no other reason than we have our humanity in common. I wonder what it would be like to live in such a culture? What would a culture and government that encouraged and supported such humanity achieve? It would be a whole different world, to be sure, one we can’t/don’t imagine because there’s no room in our 24/7 world to do so.
Instead, we are saddled with a power structure (non-electric) that urges people to conserve power in this crisis, to forego air-conditioning if not essential, to keep lights out — while at the same time we see the t.v. pictures (from fully-lit, fully-monitored studios) of Times Square with all its neon ablaze, selling our souls while people’s bodies swelter and struggle just to stay alive. Or to get home.
I love people as people. I despise power (non-electric) structures because to exist, they must strip people of their humanity. We need a new Revolution. And not one of Dumbya’s kind. Reach Out is what I would call it. “Think of every day as a crisis for the guy next to you,” is what it would espouse.
Yeah.
Rock ‘n Rollin’ on the River.
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