June 13, 2008

reluctant reentry

I spent last weekend in a place as close to perfect as I've been in a long time. Good friends, good food, a good book, a lake, mountains, a spacious home with lots of decks, pitchers of Cosmos, and laughter-filled games of Boggle. I could have stayed there forever.

Now I'm back in the situation I should never gotten into, and I'm finalizing plans for my escape, with support from both the Hospice nurse and social worker. I would like to take my mother (92 years old and demented) with me, where we would be with our extended family in a home with beautiful gardens on a dead end street with lots of neighbors. She would have pleasant distractions from the painful movements of her body and mind. I would bring in the help we both need.

But my brother doesn't want to let her go. And I just can't stay.

As my hair grows gray, I need to spend more time in places of peace.